You’re thinking of a friend… except it’s been a lot of time since you’ve chatted. What message should you even send to this long-lost friend? Whew, you’re in luck because today, I’m covering how to text someone after a long time.
I get it… it can be hard to know what message is appropriate, so let’s talk about potential messages and tips for crafting your own message.
How to text someone after a long time
Step 1: Decide WHY you want to reconnect with them
We all have friends in our life that we grew up with, went to school with, or just happened to have a conversation with. The way friendships are defined is different for everyone. One thing that is common between everyone is that they are not made to last forever.
A friendship may be good for you when you’re younger, but as you grow older, your priorities change, and so does the friendship.
So first, decide WHY you want to reconnect with an old friend. Is it because you truly miss that person or are you just lonely or perhaps even bored? If it’s the latter, I encourage you to focus on yourself and perhaps seek therapy.
Don’t try to reconnect with people simply because you’re bored. It’s selfish, and you’re wasting that person’s time because you don’t truly miss them. You just want something to do.
A friendship may be good for you when you’re younger but as you grow older, your priorities change and so does the friendship.
Step 2: Establish Contact
The internet has made it easier for people to keep in contact with each other. But there are some people that have managed to get lost in the digital age.
When you find yourself in this situation, there are a few ways to go about reaching out to an old friend. Call them if you still have their number.
- Send them a text message if you have their number.
- Send them a Facebook message or social media DM (great if you don’t have their number). I do want to call out that some social media accounts like Instagram and Facebook may your hide your message if you’re not friends with that person which could hinder them from seeing your message in the first place!
- Send them an email (great if you don’t really have any of their contact info)
Now, you’re probably reading this blog post because, well, duh, you want to text them! So now that you’ve established that you want to text an old friend, think about the time and date you want to text them.
For example, texting them at 4 a.m. may not be a good idea if they’re a busy mom with two toddlers. In the same breath, texting a person at 9 p.m. may not be a good choice if they work the 3rd shift and will be at work and may miss your text.
You want to plan a text at a time that you’re sure your friend will be available to text back and won’t miss it because how many times has someone texted you, and you forgot to respond because you were right in the middle of something? It happens! So, decide on a time and day to text your friend.
Step 3: Be Clear and Concise in Your Texts
The line between being concise and being clear is a thin one. It’s important to be both in order to get your message across efficiently.
Clear writing is about keeping your sentences short, simple, and easy to read. Concise writing is about getting the point across while using the fewest words possible.
Have a point, get to the point, and keep a point.
Don’t send a super long text message that overwhelms your old friend but also don’t be short with just a “hello”
You want to send a text that makes your old friend want to respond. Below are a few examples:
Message to a friend after long time examples:
Hey! It’s been a while. How are you? I’m doing great, thanks for asking. I hope things have been going well with you too. I’ve missed catching up with you so much. We should message each other more often to catch up on life and chat about the latest news in our lives!
How have you been? It’s been a long time since we last talked. I wanted to catch up and see how you’re doing.
It’s been too long! I’m sure you’re wondering how I’ve been. It feels like it was just yesterday that we were talking about something, but in reality it’s been way too long…
I know things have changed so much since then and I honestly don’t even remember what happened to us. But what are your plans for today? Maybe we can catch up over some coffee or a chat on the phone later this week?
It’s been a long time since we’ve seen each other. I hope you’re doing well and that life is treating you kindly. I wanted to message you to see how things are going, because I’m really happy for your success!
It’s been a long time since I’ve seen you. How have you been? We should message one another more often.
Hey, it’s been a while! I hope you’re doing well.
It was great seeing your post on Instagram the other day. I miss talking to you in person.
I came across some old photos of us and I thought of you. reminiscing about good times we had together.
Wanted to say hi and see how you’re doing!
Hey, I saw today was your birthday (thanks Facebook!). How are you? Any big plans for the day?
I hope this message finds you well. I’ve been thinking about you and wanted to say hi and catch up on everything!
Hey, I was going through some old photos and it reminded me of all the good times we had together. How are you? I would love to catch up!
Hey, old friend! It’s been ages since we last spoke. How have you been?
I’ve been thinking about you lately and wondering how you’re doing. Want to catch up sometime soon?”
Tips when creating a message to a friend after a long time
When crafting your message, be sure to keep it short and sweet. You don’t want to overwhelm your friend with a long message right off the bat.
Start with a simple message letting them know that you were thinking of them and missed talking to them in person. Then, if they are open, you can continue the conversation.
Why old friendships are important
Friendships are some of the most important relationships a person can have.
They allow us to connect and bond with people in a way that we can’t with other relationships like family or romantic partners. They’re there for us in good times and bad. They don’t judge us when they find out about our secrets.
And while new friendships are fun, old ones last much longer because you already know each other’s quirks and what they don’t like.
Being able to maintain friendships is a really great skill that allows us to connect with people throughout all stages of our lives.
You’ve been through so much together that when your friendship is strong, it can be unbreakable. That being said, it’s hard to maintain friendships without letting some things slide.
You might not text your best friend as much as before, or you find yourself hanging out less and less with them. You tell yourself that it’s just because you’ve been busy, but really you’re finding excuses.
So why do old friendships seem to fade away over time?
You still have a lot in common. You share memories. Memories are all you have at the end of the day, so it’s important to keep them alive. And they make you feel good because you can reminisce on times gone by as well as create new memories.
Friendship is important. Creating new friendships and maintaining old friendships.
If you miss a friend, let them know. If you want to reconnect with an old friend, tell them.
No, maintaining friendships isn’t the easiest thing on the planet, but friendships are so rewarding.
No, maintaining friendships isn’t the easiest thing on the planet but friendships are so rewarding.
Advice from my friends on texting someone you haven’t talked to in a while
I asked my friends for their tips when it comes to how to text someone after a long time. Here are their tips:
If that person doesn’t respond, accept it. Don’t be pushy or try to guilt-trip them into talking to you.
Let them know you’re thinking of them! Tell them you miss them and want to rekindle the friendship. Be honest.
If you can do a little stalking first! Did they recently get engaged? Tell them congrats on their engagement. Did they recently buy a home or write a new blog post? Tell them congrats or great job! People like recognition for their achievements!
Should I text someone I haven’t talked to in a long time?
Do you want to rekindle the fire of an old flame? Want to talk about how your life has changed since you last talked? When you text someone you haven’t talked to in a long time, it’s important to send them something lighthearted.
The trick is not to come off as needy or desperate. Keep the messages short and sweet, and don’t send too many messages back-to-back.
Some people feel that they should keep their messages short and sweet, while others say that they should be much more personal than that. You’ll need to figure out what type of conversation starter will work for both of you before sending any messages!
What do you say to someone you haven’t seen in a long time?
Here are some typical phrases that you might use to greet someone you haven’t seen in a long time:
How have you been?
It’s so good to see you again after all this time!
It’s great to see you. What’ve you been up to since the last time we met?
Be friendly. People can genuinely tell if you’re happy to see them or not.
I hope this blog post has helped give you some ideas for how to text someone after a long time! Be sure to let me know in the comments below if you have any other tips or advice. And don’t forget to share this blog post with your friends and family! They may find it helpful.
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